We have all heard that song at one point or another, haven't we? Not to mention the myriads of "love theme" songs, ranging from love is grand, to love is lost, and the unrequited loves. It is a worn out subject in songs and literature alike. And why should it not be? It is what gets us up in the morning. So I am not complaining, well, not really.
Unlesssssss of course, I hear songs with codependent love themes. And mind you, codependency isn't love. It is a mental illness. So as a 34 year old who can just change the station, why do I care? Well, perhaps young people do not know the difference and that there is my main concern.
Take this gem here for example, the latest of the "I'm jack shit without you" jams. It's cute. It's catchy. There are girls, drinks, and more drinks, and girls, some dudes, and plenty of club hopping. It probably seems really cool to most young people. Most young people probably "relate" to the song which to me, is so sad and disturbing.
No one should have to stay "high" for any reason ( hello, drug problems in our nation people), and if you feel like you would have to degrade yourself and harm yourself because you can't "let someone go", then in all actuality you never "loved" that person to begin with.
Um, you kinda sorta have to love yourself first.
And that is SO important, for everyone. It is important for adults and minors alike.
Then, when ( and if ) that person leaves your life you can still take care of you. You can go around singing things like " I take Yoga to keep you off my mind, and quite frankly I'll be just fine."
Sure, love lost hurts. Sometimes it hurts a whole hell of a lot.
But it is what makes us grow and evolve as human beings. Numbing yourself is depriving yourself of great personal truths that will make you a better person. And do we not want to be great people?
So in conclusion,
If you have a daughter, or son, bumping this kind of music....just please nudge them.
Show them what real love is.